8 Secrets to Happiness and Finding Your Authentic Self

By: Ryan G. Beale, M.A., TLLP Posted On Jan 12, 2017

8 Secrets to Happiness and Finding Your Authentic Self


Life is going to throw us a few reminders along our journey often designed to remind us of how small we really are. These eight secrets are strategies I have personally used in times of extreme stress. I have also prescribed many of these secrets to clients to assist them in re-aligning with their authentic selves.

1.Have a routine throughout the day as well as your week. Otherwise, the world can become pretty confusing.  Make sure that you design your routine so that it is trailed with seeds of personal meaning throughout the day, and allow flexibility and unpredictability in.

2.Allow yourself to be vulnerable to failure as well as rejection. Make sure to take a healthy risk every week that makes you feel uncomfortable.  For some people that risk might be to make a cold call for work, and for others it may mean looking into the mirror and reminding yourself that you are loved.

3.Be grateful. The most challenging aspect of being grateful is to find a deeper meaning in what you are grateful for. It is critical to search for your unique personal lesson in life’s events that fuels your personal growth. Even when life throws you tragic circumstances, which it will if you are breathing, you should work to find the lesson in which you are grateful for that experience.


4.Surround yourself with people that allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable, however are self-aware as well.

5.Practice creativity. Make a point to always have something that you are learning outside of your work and home life, so that you can see your own progress evolve. Even activities like learning Photoshop or how to edit videos on your computer can become very fulfilling experiences, and are key to becoming unstuck.

6.Volunteer and help those less fortunate than yourself.

7.Listen to your body. You’ve already trained your brain to trick yourself.

8.Realize that happiness is just a glimpse of a feeling within a brief moment. Don’t get caught up when it fades away, just keep designing an authentic meaningful life and happiness will have more living space when it comes back to visit.

Ryan G. Beale, MA, TLLP is the CEO and founder of Therapy.Live. He is a licensed Psychotherapist and author of the book Forty Days Off Facebook.

TAGS: Happiness, Authenticity and Self Expression, Self-Love, Managing Life Events and Changes
About the Author
Ryan Beale is the CEO and Founder of The Live Network, a Public Benefit Corporation dedicated to moving the needle in mental health on a personal level and global scale. Ryan’s unique resilience and futuristic approach to problem solving has led him to always be someone who runs toward the fire to combat overwhelming social and personal challenges. Through decades of self-reflection, growth, and discipline as a martial arts instructor, licensed psychotherapist, and social entrepreneur, Ryan has used his innovative approach and lived experiences to tackle social issues on a massive scale. In 2006, he founded Chattertree.com one of the first private family social networks in the world. It was the first such network to become COPPA compliant, which protected and allowed children under 13 to safely join to use the technology. Chattertree went on to connect more than 10,000 families from over 100 countries around the world. Pivotal events in Ryan’s life occurred when he lost his uncle to an apparent suicide at just 7 years of age, his brother Steve to suicide in 2009, as well as his former father-in-law to suicide that following year. The combination of personal family tragedy and the changing landscape of mental health due to emerging social network platforms, prompted Ryan to journal and author the book “40 Days Off Facebook”, which is now utilized in schools across North America through the Prepare U Mental Health Curriculum. Since then, Ryan has made addressing mental health challenges and the associated stigma preventing individuals from seeking care his top priority. Ryan is a relentless advocate for greater mental health. He created Therapy Live, a HIPAA compliant Telehealth platform that empowers therapists to connect to their clients and the public, he is the coauthor of Prepare U, the first ever evidence-supported experiential mental health curriculum for teens, he has worked as a crisis interventionist with clients struggling with pre and post suicide attempts, and he holds a patent for advanced technologies designed to optimize mental health treatment for the masses. He has been named one of Oakland County's Elite 40 under 40 and was an expert panelist for the Huffington Post’s first ever Parent Conference. Ryan and his innovative work in the mental health space has been featured in Teen Vogue, The U.S. Department of Education Newsletter, Huffington Post, Education Weekly, NowThis, NPR, FOX News, and the front page of regional newspapers transforming the conversation of mental health. He has been a featured speaker around the country, has hosted the former U.S. Surgeon General, and has reduced suffering and saved lives by working with legislation and state officials to normalize the delivery of mental health services and education for the next generation. Ryan is the proud father of 3 beautiful daughters. He is passionate about ensuring that they grow up to understand that mental health will touch everyone’s journey and that it is critical to live a compassionate, authentic, purposeful, and meaningful life.

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